Living the Dream

My reasons for coming to France? Less stress, notsell it. Meanwhile, I had to put up with a French builder
working 9-5, better schooling for the children, betterwho just didn't understand French! No matter how
weather, having more time with the family, a biggermany times I asked him not to smoke in the house, he
house, smaller mortgage, being closer to nature tocontinued. I started to hope that the obligatory cigarette
name but a few.hanging from his mouth would drop onto his nylon shirt
I came to France in January 2002 with my husbandand shrink wrap him! Oh and the best thing of all he did,
and two children aged 12 and 14, two rabbits and twoit was very creative, he ran out of sisal carpet so he
budgies (the children refused to come unless theycut little squares and did a patchwork effect on the
came too). There was no heating in our rented houselanding! Less stress? (Sigh)
and although we had been told how warm it was here,Eventually the house was sold and I moved into my
we endured temperatures of -25 that first winter.son's apartment. It was only meant to be for a little
Better weather, um, I was reserving judgment on thatwhile but when my marriage broke up, I was stuck
one.there with 2 new kittens, 2 budgies and a moody
We found a house, got a cheap mortgage until theteenager. So much for a bigger house.
Bank pulled out 2 days before we were due to moveOn top of that, I was also trying to get my career as
so we ended up borrowing from a different Bank andan artist off the ground so found myself sitting at the
paying way more per month than anticipated. Akitchen table surrounded by canvasses and paint.
smaller mortgage? This wasn't looking good.Working 9-5? More like 5-9. At least I enjoy what I do.
Six weeks into our move, my husband is offered a jobAfter 6 months I found a little house to rent with an
in Vienna, Austria and was leaving that week. He hadattic room and views over the vineyards. Here I
been due to start a job here. 7 months later, my 13thought I could paint and reflect on what to do with my
year old daughter decided she couldn't possibly livelife. I hurled myself into my art and people actually
without her friends and went back to the UK. 4 yearsseemed to like what I was doing. A year later, I took
down the line having been separated from mypart in a small exhibition in Fayssac where I met my
husband for the most part, my marriage broke up.new partner. Joe who is Hungarian, speaks English and
Better schooling for the children and family time werelived just 10 minutes down the road! He's also a
now also off the list.musician and a website designer. When I'm not painting,
Oh well, onwards and upwards as they say and I stillwe play music together. He plays the guitar and I the
had son to consider who was doing brilliantly at schoolsaxophone.
and well on his way to getting his Baccalaureat.We moved and bought our own house to get out of
Despite not speaking French, he was thrown into therenting. During our move, my daughter was diagnosed
French system. He didn't have to redouble andwith Stage 4 Hodgkins Lymphoma. She had to give up
seemed to integrate really well. He is now doing hisschool and underwent almost 9 months of chemo
Masters at Nimes University in Environmentaltherapy. Thankfully, she has now been in remission for
Psychology and well on his way to taking his2 years. She too is at University taking her teaching
doctorate in Sweden the year after next. Reason todegree. She's off to Canada this summer to work as
be cheerful number 1. Better schooling for one child atan au pair. She's just brilliant with little ones and I know
least.she'll make an excellent teacher one day. Another
Whilst living in our "dream" home, we had a chimneyreason to be cheerful.
fire, two 20 year old trees blew down in a storm, weWe also launched a community website for anyone
lost half our roof in another storm, my cat got run overcreative. It takes up much of our time but we love
and "la pièce de resistance", I and the house were hitseeing all that creativity every day. The members are
by lightning! I had just finished renovating it when thea fantastic bunch so it's a real pleasure to run it. We
beautiful new inox tube that cost 700 euros and noget much support from them in all that we do and
one would ever see, got hit by a rare type of lightning,proves that it's important to give in life.
conducted through our kitchen, arced in my direction inLike most artists, we struggle to pay the bills but we
the living room where I was standing in bare feet,live in a beautiful country, do what we feel passionate
threw me in the air and caused nerve damage to myabout and live in a better climate. I guess the moral
feet. Being closer to nature? I didn't want to be thathere is, be careful what you wish for, it might just
close!come true only it may not be exactly how you
Now that the house was totally annihilated, we had toimagined it!